Dear Friend

I don't say it often enough, I know, but your recent EM to me describing your experience in the ER has moved me today to let you know what you've meant to me, and to my family.

When my children were killed by a drunk driver more than four years ago, I had alot of question, and very few good answers.  You were nearly my first call, having been referred to me by MADD.  For nearly all the hard questions I had, you had good answers.  "We" spent nearly two years trying to define justice for my children, and with every step, you were there, on the other end of the phone to hear me rant, and cry, and generally sound like a crazy person.  LOL  I'm glad you have a toll-free number. 

Often we survivors of tragedy feel a sense of "alone-ness"...nobody can possibly feel or understand what we're going thru.  We get over it eventually, but it takes alot of time, and alot of prayer, and ALOT of understanding from those folks who love us best.  It's not easy living life with us.  We can be emotionally difficult to bear.  We're just not pleasant people to be around sometimes. But you never let me feel alone.

I've heard your voice in the many communications we've had, over the telephone and by EMail, and all those words live as a journal of sorts on my laptop so that when I have moments of dis-clarity, and need to redefine my path, I can pull them up, reread them, and find solace in yours words.    It's cathartic to me.  I remember where I was then, and can pull it up and forward and remember where I'm headed down this long and arduous path.  It ain't easy being green!!! LOL  You make it easier.

Recently I was doing a bit of volunteer work at the local MADD office and came across a copy of your book.  I've never been able to afford a copy for myself.  I ganked it!   Well, not really, but I DID put it back somewhere safe within the office so that I know where to find it when I need it.  It's almost like a reference book for me now.  I "work" for MADD in several different capacities, none of which produce income!!!, but find that your book makes a good go-to for me when I'm interacting with other survivors of tragedy.  I still have alot of questions sometimes..and you're STILL there, giving me good answers.

God bless you, Ivy Scarborough. 
Your Forever Fan,
Dani Forbes